THE BEST REVENGE IS NOT TAKING ANY REVENGE

In life, the best revenge is actually not taking any revenge at all. It is not even holding on to any anger at all. It is moving on with your life. It is showing them that life is so much better after they are gone. It is easy to blame those that have wronged us, for just about everything that is wrong with our life. If it was not for them, I would be happy. If they did not do this, I would be where I want to be.

Most people get so caught up in blaming that they continue to blame & sabotage their own life, long after the person is gone from their life. Most people hold on to the blame because it is easier than moving on. Having an excuse or story of why they are not where they want to be gets them sympathy from others. The victim role gives them comfort & it is much easier than taking responsibility & moving on with their life. However it is not & will never be a happy place to stay happy.

Those who take responsibility for their life & are wanting to move one & put their past behind them are much more likely to gain freedom, success & happiness. There are horrible people in this world that have done wrong by others. It is not condoning other’s behaviour. It is taking back the power they have from you, when you are the one suffering long after they are gone. Who wins if you keep blaming them? Who wins if you move on, forget about them & create the best life & success you could ever imagine?Who wins if you move on? Who wins if you forget about them? Who wins if you create your best ever life, full of success & abundance? YOU WIN!!

Take back your power. Blame them for, what they have done, but do not blame them for what you have not done. Blame them for what they have done, but bless them for making you even stronger, for making you better. Blame them for what they have done, but thank them for showing you exactly what you do not want. You can blame the world for bringing them into your life, but then grateful for all the lessons it taught you, all the strengths it gave you, all the perspectives it gave you. Know in your heart that if they knew better they would do better. Know in your heart you do not need to take on any of your negative energy. How good does it feel to take that baggage off your shoulders? To focus on building your future. What a blessing! LET GO! MOVE FORWARD. NEVER LOOK BACK.

The best revenge is not taking any revenge.
It is simply moving on with your life, creating the best version of yourself.

BEAUTY

BEAUTY – We often hear this word. We almost hear it every day.We have heard people calling different things as beautiful. Even different people are called beautiful, for their looks & qualities. But none of us has ever wondered that what does the word beauty mean?

The general definition of beauty is the combination of qualities which give pleasure to the senses & exalts the mind & spirit. Most of us only consider half of this definition which says “Beauty is the combination of qualities which give pleasure to the senses” but we neglect the remaining part of the definition which is far more important which says “that gives pleasure to the senses & exalts the mind & spirit”. But we have confined the word beauty to the physical attributes only like color, shape, appearance, etc. In reality beauty is much more than just a physical attribute as the definition itself says “it is a combination of qualities.”

Different people have different definition of the word beautiful. Some people consider rain beautiful while some consider it irritating. Some people consider babies beautiful, but for others they are annoying & messy. Some people fall for the blue eyes while others are crazy for black ones. Each & every person has a different perspective & different choice when it comes to calling something or someone beautiful. Beauty has nothing to do with physical attributes, in fact beauty is completely related to attributes that satisfy our soul. Beauty is everlasting, it is not temporary & this is the only reason for which it is called beautiful because it is not going to end. If beauty was only related to physical appearance, then how it would be everlasting & if it is going to end or change then how it is beautiful? What is unique about being beautiful? As everything is temporary, it changes. Beauty has the tendency to remain permanent. Whatever makes us feel happy remains close to heart forever. Everything is temporary except soul & the good deeds that will remain forever. Temporary things which look beautiful are juts an illusion which deceive us for a certain time period & they will vanish as the poet  John Keats said; A thing of beauty is a joy forever: Its loveliness increases; it will never pass into nothingness.”

Many people, especially girls feel like they are not beautiful. They consider themselves inferior on the basis of their complexion, weight, figure, dressing & many other material things & physical attributes. But the truth is that a person who has a caring heart & soul is a beautiful person. The person who cares for others, love others, help others, see good in others, who can feel other people’s pain & becomes the reason of someone’s smile is a beautiful person. If you prove yourself to be an umbrella for people who are in pain, no matter what colour you are, what race you belong to, what dress you wear, what language you speak… Trust me you are the most beautiful person of this world! Shout out to all those people who have been the reason of someone’s happiness, who have helped someone, who care for other people, who try to spread happiness. Such people are more than beautiful because you have “the heart who cares!”

“What you feel is what you are,
And what you are is beautiful.”

ARE YOU LEFT BRAINED OR RIGHT BRAINED?

THE LEFT BRAIN

Our left brain is characterized mainly by “verbal skills” & “logical thinking.”

Individuals who are said to be left brain dominant are more “sequential” & “rational.” A person with a dominant left brain is inclined to gain understanding of a situation by rationally or logically sequencing pieces or individual events together or by basing their thinking on individual pieces that make up a whole situation. This is entirely the opposite of a person who is right brain dominant who tends to process his/her thoughts by viewing the situation through instincts & visual pictures as well as by observing things in a more global/holistic perspective before even trying to analyze the minute details thereafter.

KEY TRAITS OF A LEFT BRAINED INDIVIDUAL

  • Responds well to verbal instructions/ guidelines
  • Handle issues or solves problems by analyzing by reason – and looking sequentially at the different parts of things
  • Understands information by consistently & successively considering each component of things
  • Analyzes differences in things
  • Prefers definite & established information
  • Is structured & planned
  • Prefers ranked authority types of structures
  • Prefers multiple choice questions/ tests
  • More comfortable with words whether through speech/talking & writing
  • Has a distinct ability to controls his/her feelings

THE RIGHT BRAIN

Individuals who are said to be right brain dominant tend to be more “simultaneous” & “intuitive” as opposed to left brain individuals who are more sequential and logical.

To help differentiate the more dominantly right-brained individual from a more dominantly left-brained one, here is an example: either one type will have a different way of describing directions to a certain location…

A right-brained individual will more likely to give you this kind of instructions or directions: “Follow Road 15 until you get past the mini-mart & shopping mall on your right side. Next, you will pass through 2 traffic lights & then see a blue office building on your left side—that’s Sycamore Street. Turn in that spot then go a couple of blocks more till you reach a gas station with a yellow & white sign with bold red letters. Turn left from there to Church Street & go to the second house on your left, the green one with white shades.” – A right brain person will give you this kind of visual image description to help vividly guide you to your destination.

On the other hand, a left-brained individual will more likely tell you these kind of directions: “Go eastward for 2.3 miles on Road 15 & then go south to Sycamore Street for three blocks. Next, turn west on Church Street & stop at the second house on your left.”— A left brain person will definitely give you this kind of detailed & factual information, which will be a great descriptive direction for another left brain person.

KEY TRAITS OF A RIGHT BRAINED INDIVIDUAL

  • Responds well to demonstrative/visual/vivid instructions
  • Is spontaneous & more fluid
  • Attracted to elusive or uncertain information
  • Settles issues with their “hunches” and in accordance to revealed patterns or configurations
  • Lumps things together according to essential connectedness
  • Sees likenesses or correspondences
  • Analyzes similarities
  • Comfortable with or prefers collegial-type of power/ authority structures
  • Prefers open ended questions
  • At ease with drawing or manipulating things
  • Free with expressing feelings & emotions

BENEFITS OF UNDERSTANDING THE LEFT & RIGHT BRAIN

The truth to all these matters is that every person needs to utilize both his left & right sides of the brain (each working with one another) in order to come up with the most accurate kind of mental processing or best thinking skills.

We can credit the development of these distinctive differences between the 2 brain hemispheres to the studies of Dr. Roger Sperry, a psychobiologist, who carried out extensive research on the subject during the 1960’s. Because of his findings & discoveries, he had been awarded in 1981 the honors of a Nobel Prize; & now, we can use these information to help us know not just our weaknesses in certain areas/aspects for growth, but also help us determine which areas in our lives or in which types of profession we may excel in with our innate capacities.

The main benefit of understanding which part of our brain is more dominant will assist us as well as empower us in developing some of our weaker processing styles – those that are not too characteristic of ourselves. Of course, we do not have to feel inferior about these qualities that we may not be excelling in, but rather, by being simply aware of them, it can help us more in dealing with our daily interactions.

  • In any case, even if there are uniquely awesome qualities for each type of left & right brain hemispheres, knowing which traits you can develop more, as well as being aware of the activities you can do to help train the other (less developed hemisphere) of your brain, will provide you great assistance if you want to live a better, more fulfilled & well-balanced life.

WHAT YOUR FAVOURITE COLOUR REFLECTS ABOUT YOUR PERSONALITY?!

People like different colours. Some like red & some like blue. Ever wondered why someone is attracted to a particular colour? Colour preference reflect a lot about a person’s personality. Experts agree, also numerous studies have gleaned that color psychology is real. Of course, individuals vary & the characteristics mentioned do not hold true for everyone. Read below to gain more insight about colours:

1. Black

People who like black colour tend to be mysterious & powerful. You are dignified, refined & intelligent. You come across as calm & in control. People who like the color black tend to be deep thinkers. You may come across as intimidating sometimes but overall you are smart, capable & responsible.

2. White

White is color that indicates purity, cleanliness, independence, order & peace. White can indicate innocence as well, but white is really a color that indicates change & transformation, such as a new beginning or a change of plans. If you find yourself gravitating towards white, it can mean that you are in a time of change or transition. People who like the color white are wise & balanced.

3. Purple

People with a fondness for purple are deeply insightful about life & are often either artistic in expressing themselves or have great admiration for the artistic endeavors of others. Among purple loving people there is a common interest in striving for peace & envision a world free of war & diseases. Likewise, purple lovers strive to share the message through artistic endeavors. Purple lovers are also often attracted to mystical & spiritual matters.

4. Blue

Blue is the most commonly loved color of them all. People who like blue strive to have serene lifestyle & a sense of peace by keeping their home & undertakings in good order. Blue lovers tend to be thoughtful. The blues are very often highly intellectual. Blues can often strongly adhere to their own opinions, however they are also sensitive to the needs of others & generally manage their emotions well. Blue is associated with achievement & success.

5. Green

If you have a fondness toward green then social standing is important to you. You want people to recognize you even if it is just in a simple way. You have good relationships with others. You are steady & unchanging in your life view. People who like green often resist change & strive diligently to protect their good life & standing. People who like green, also tend to enjoy nature & have a need to connect with the earth.

6. Yellow

People who gravitate towards yellow tend to have an optimistic outlook on life. They have high aspirations & work diligently to achieve their dreams. They are well-organized, methodical & deliberate. Yellow lovers have a tendency to run out of steam though and in the long run you may not achieve your well planned goals for the lack of energy to execute them. You are not shy but may possess a natural reserve or appear aloof.

7. Orange

Those who have a love for the color orange are inclined to be outgoing & friendly. They are pleasant people, make friends easily and tend to smile. Orange lovers truly enjoy fun friendships. They can easily engage in more deep discussions with people yet they are also typically light & affectionate. You are at ease with large groups of people & meeting new people.

8. Red

The color red is very appealing to the extrovert. Red is associated with strong appetites and a desire to live life to the fullest. Red can sometimes be associated with aggression & impulsiveness. A person who likes red may be inclined to a moody personality with many ups & downs in feelings. Likewise, they tend to release your emotions quickly. Reds know that life should be happy & are quick to become upset when life challenges this. Reds can also be quick to judge.

9. Pink

Pink is associated with love, femininity, sweetness, innocence & affection. Pink people tend to be romantic, generous & sensitive towards others. People who like pink tend to be caregivers & know how to be there for others. They can often wear their heart on their sleeves, but they remain positive & are open and loving to all.

10. Brown

People who are drawn to brown are steady, hard-working & deliberate in their approach to life. Browns connect to the earth & are dependable & responsible. They are hard workers & tenacious. Browns are frugal & are often considered old souls.