A *Man With Purpose Never Blames Destiny!

                Life has little to offer to those who have little to offer to life.  Too often one claims about what has life given to him rather then asking himself what has he given to life. Majorly, it is a shared belief that “Life is an echo.” Originally, what one can understand by this  is, life sends back to you what you send forward. Usually, all have seen man blaming destiny for things he faces in his life not realizing that it was he himself; asking for things he has received now. This gives one a clear idea of how the universe and man both are designed for each other in a fashion that makes them interdependent. Therefore, all man on earth are born with a prescribed purpose – a role, which is selected by nature for them based on their interdependence upon each other to satisfy needs & those who could not discover it, often remain slaves of circumstances calling it an undefined destiny but self discovery of ones own strengths & weaknesses can clarify man to choose a relatively appropriate goal in life & payback to nature accordingly.

            The interdependence of nature & man over one another is inseparable by the theory of life cycle, consequently man owes a role towards nature so does nature towards man. As Man is the last consumer of everything produced in the world so he depends upon nature to fulfill his needs of food, shelter & clothing. Similarly, man is responsible to return the benefits in the similar sense to the world in order to maintain harmony of resources found naturally, otherwise the world suffers disasters like global warming, extinction of species etc.  For example, plants grow fruits & vegetables not knowing who it benefits but if man does not sow back the seeds of plants he has consumed the species become extinct. Recently, a number of bee’s species are listed as extinct which poses serious threats to pollination. Research shows that bees are the quickest flies that cause pollination multiple times faster than normal flies. There could be several reasons for bee extinction; for example, scientists these days capture bees to produce honey artificially & also slaughter them for medication purposes. If bees become extinct & could not reproduce, the several types of honey with different tastes will also become extinct. Hence, to preserve bees man must look after them for their reproduction or else he will loose a lot of honey & other plants that grow by pollination otherwise man will have to cry for an undefined destiny.

            Generally, one knows necessity is the soul reason of any invention both by nature & man. Hence, nature produces while man discovers & invents things either to solve a problem or to make life convenient. Fire; the first ever discovery of man lead to a dramatic change in the human life. It made mans life convenient. The second best ever invention by man was a tyre by which life has become faster & better. This discovery shortened the distances and saved time. Prior to these discoveries & inventions of man nature used to run slow & steady but since when man has discovered & invented things the life is moving at a faster pace. This sometimes leads one to an understanding that nature is directly proportional to the responsiveness of man & the responsive attitude of man depends on how bad he needs something. As one scientist says, “Necessity is the mother of invention” which means, as motivated a man is towards his needs, the sooner he invents something to satisfy it which leads to the changing of both world & him. Hence, people who do something about what they need they are never left upon undefined destiny.

            It is said, “You do not choose purpose, purpose chooses you.” As described above, mostly man chooses his purpose by deeply looking into his needs & wants & chooses the best possible way to achieve it. But too often one is distracted enough to decide what he must do with life or to answer what is his purpose of life, also what he really needs. A study claims, “Man with a clear purpose is never distracted while a man without purpose can be easily distracted.” The study proposes when a man knows what he is really doing & what he is after no matter whatever hurdles & threats he may face in his life; he will never be distracted, specially if he knows that he is being tested towards achieving his goals. For example, Thomas Edison knew what he was doing & he was certain about the end result. After lightning his bulb he said, “I did not fail 1000 times, I discovered 1000 ways that may lead to failure.” Thomas Edison discovered the appropriate way after trying 1000 ways to achieve the desired goal. Therefore a man who has settled his goal & his purpose of life is not left onto the unseen destiny of life, he certainly can achieve what he wills to achieve & whatever may come before him, he must accepts it & overcome it himself by devising certain strategies that may help him outgrow the challenges.

Rumi rightly says, “Live life as if everything is rigid in your favor.”

Man must view everything that comes before him as a favor to get closer to his destiny. When one understands the true essence of offering himself to whatever is beyond him i.e. in this moment he outgrows the tomorrow.

            Succeeding forward, discovery of ones own self gives man a clear understanding of his strength & weaknesses therefore a man can easily set his goal & can act accordingly. As  life is the most uncertain ride where the only certainties are drivers, passengers & the vehicle, where man are the drivers & passengers while purpose is the vehicle. The road & destination still remain a mystery to some because too often one chooses something & reaches somewhere else. For example, if a man who is a master in painting chooses to play cricket while a man who has skills of playing cricket chooses to paint their life will be upside down.  This happens because either one has not yet discovered his true gift given by nature – his strengths – or he is yet too confused to focus on anyone. An idiom says ,” A jack of all is master of none” so if man desires to be unbeatable master he must self-discover his strengths & must polish them daily, because master of self is slave to none. He who has discovered & mastered himself will not be slave to anyone & anything even if it is unseen destiny. Knowing your strengths & weaknesses gives one an opportunity to understand himself better & act accordingly.

            In a nutshell, man is born with his prescribed destiny as the purpose of living which is selected by nature. He plays a role & is interdependent & inter-related to others. Man can only be beneficial to the nature if he pays back to nature what he consumes for this he requires a deep understanding of himself by discovering his plus points & using them to set his goal. At least three times a day ask yourself what is most important & build the courage to create your life around your answer. In this way man will never have to blame his destiny.

* let man be human.


Myths are a certain type of stories that are made by people to believe into while it is also passed over generations. One such myth has always been that, “A woman is the reflection of her man.” If the statement stands to be true then all man should be black & all women should be white, as black is the color that absorbs every beam of light while white reflects them all. Keeping this in mind that whatever a man absorbs or precisely what a man possesses in himself turns out to be the reflection shown in the woman he aligns or accompanies with. If that is true, then all women must be Godesses. If man are regarded as “Majazi Khuda” in our society.

            Since the advent of the concept about man & woman as separate entities has prevailed. It has become difficult to decide as to whether who is who & what is what. The blame game of both the genders has created a havoc of disharmony in the world. None out of both is willing to admit & give away a certain service demanded by one to the other. Each one is so busy in asking & demanding that the hands of giving are in scarcity while the mouths to ask are in surplus. This situation clearly creates a condition which Gandhi defined as, “An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.” A woman by the myth mentioned above appears to be the reflection of what a man absorbs in his personality. An arabic proverb says, “When a women is loved correctly she becomes ten times the women she was before.” It is near to impossible for a woman to be loved correctly in a surplus of women in the world by the number of 4.2 billion when men are only 3.3 billion.

            It is said, “Ignorance is the key to all success” which means both men & women have to learn the art of ignorance only by which the world will know peace & harmony.

            Sri Chimnoy has rightly said; “Unless & until we have peace deep within us, we can never hope to have peace in the outer world. You & I create the world by the vibrations that we offer to it. If we can invoke peace & then offer it to somebody else, we will see how peace expands from one to two persons & gradually to the world at large. Peace will come about in the world from the perfection of individuals. If you have peace, I have peace, he has peace & she has peace, then automatically universal peace will dawn.”

            World is the balance of woman & man in the world. Without both of them world cannot survive gracefully. Both man & woman should respect their differences & must give breathing space to eachother in order to grow. Both woman & man are reflections of each other, both interchange their places of role performance when necessary hence both must appreciate & admit each other’s importance & grow with the maturity of mutual respect because children are their prism & mirror who follow in their footsteps.

“The woman is the reflection of her man.
If you love her to the point of madness, she will become it.”
– Brad Pitt


“Once there used to live
Pessimist & Optimist
Idealists & Realists
Philosophers & Practitioners
Feminists & Chauvinists together successfully.
Because their love for each other was greater than their love for themselves.”

            Women is a word from which some derive meaning as “Wow of men” or “Woe without men.” It is extremely based on ones own perception about women. Women around the world appear as the reflection of what one desires to see in her. A weak man sees threats whilst a brave man sees strength.

Lisa Kleypas said, ” A well read woman is a dangerous creature.”

            In her view, woman is one the creations of God & their learning is as important as that of another. On the other hand a famous writer Leo Tolstoy feels the need of woman in a society by saying, “Nothing is better for a youngster than the company of old wise woman.” By youngster he means a young learning boy & by wise woman what he really means is a woman with strong character. As one can see character have long been an illusion to guide or rather misguide one from perceiving woman as human based on the fact that she has to deliver a certain discipline of wisdom imposed by OTHERS!

            Women all around the world are expected to deliver a certain code of conduct towards society baffled by the idea i.e. women & only women are responsible for the betterment of society. A society where women are fighting for dignity, respect, recognition, realization, encouragement & understanding of being a human but they are being judged & condemned by men not delivering as desired by the society, yet women are responsible for the betterment of society. If women are responsible for the betterment of society then why are not women encouraged to participate in a society?

A question that has always remained a mystery!

            Subsequently, for the amazement of society women are fighting for their rights – to be appropriate basic human rights as characterized by Maslow – in the society for the society with the society & still women are responsible for the betterment of society.

            History reveals that women have always played significant role in all walks of life side by side men to make this society a successful society. The ecosystem of the earth requires not the men or women but rather the manhood & womanhood which are characteristics of human to make this world a better place. Both man & woman are required to play the role of human yet each human irrespective of gender has the capabilities of both manhood & womanhood.

            Unless man in a society understands the importance of womanhood no society can flourish swiftly & vice versa..!

“Women are the real architects of the society!”